On An Example of True Adab

Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmaani ‘r-Raheem,

With the name of God, the most loving & caring, the always loving and caring,


One summer, I was going to the US to visit my Aunt and her family. I traveled with my brother and parents, and we flew across several continents before reaching New York. The travel seems to have been a blur, with each leg of the journey blending in with the rest.

Having endured several days of a zombie-esque lifestyle, we were glad to have made it. We had eaten oddly, slept badly, and not relieved ourselves comfortably for a long time. Entering our Uncle’s car seemed an escape from all that. Whew.

But days of travel led to a build-up of waste in my system… and as I sat down in the car I realized my dire need to go the bathroom. I whispered to my Mom and she got in a panic and begged me to just hold on for a little bit more.

I obliged, feeling too shy while in the presence of an uncle who I barely knew. Each second felt an eternity, and all the small talk in the world couldn’t help my agony. Some true jihad was fought that day, and I relaxed as I got innards under a semblance of control.

But, right then, the car hit an unforeseen bump and out slipped some gas under me. It made no sound. I was hoped with all my might that there is no smell. Nobody reacted, and I was even more relieved as the situation took care of itself.

Then six eyes more fierce than I have ever seen all turned to me simultaneously. My mother seemed like she wanted to throw me out of the car, my brother forlorn as if he wished he did not know me, and my dad utterly disappointed and angry. The smell was real; the gas was not imaginary.

As they smelt it, there was no question about my uncle having smelt it. My week with cousins would begin on such a note, and I shrunk into my seat as another second ticked by.

“Whoops, looks like some bad air got in”

My uncle rolled down all four windows simultaneously to get rid of the toxic substance, and I was overjoyed! I don’t care, my family knows my flatulence; at least my honor in front of my uncle is saved.

The trip went on to be great alhamduliLlah. Half a year later as I reflected on this incident, I realized something: why would someone lower the car windows if they thought a bad smell got in

My uncle had known that someone passed gas in the car, and probably that it was me from my family’s staring — but he effortlessly and ingeniously saved me from embarrassment. MashaAllah…


As salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi, wa barakaatuh

May peace of every aspect be upon you, along with the mercy of God and also His blessing.

On the State We Must Live In

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With the name of God; the most loving & caring, the always loving and caring,


RasulAllah ﷺ, said:

“The believer dies with sweat on his brow.”

Although the hadith mentions dying in that state — as we do not know when we will die, we must always maintain the state we hope to die in. A beautiful and motivating scenario, similar to the one on Jumu’ah when there is an hour that all du’a is answered — but we do not know which.

Sunan Ibn Majah: Book 6, Hadith 1519 | Sahih: Darussalam


As salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi, wa barakaatuh

May peace of every aspect be upon you, along with the mercy of God and also His blessing.

On the Strictness a Believer Should Hold Himself To

Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmaani ‘r-Raheem,

With the name of Allah, the most loving & caring, the always loving and caring,


`Umar himself, may Allah be pleased with him, used to whip his foot at night and say to himself:

“Tell me, what have you done today?!”

Time in the Life of a Muslim, Dr. Yusuf al-Qaradawi


As salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi, wa barakaatuh

May peace of every aspect be upon you, along with the mercy of God and also His blessing.

 

On Those to Whom Allah (ﷻ) Intends Good

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Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmaani ‘r-Raheem,

With the name of Allah, the most loving & caring, the always loving and caring,


 

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “He whom Allah intends good, He makes him to suffer from some affliction”.

Riyada ‘s-Saliheen: Book 1, Hadith 39

 


As salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi, wa barakaatuh

May peace of every aspect be upon you, along with the mercy of God and also His blessing.

On The Stepping Stone to Taqwa

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Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmaani ‘r-Raheem,

With the name of Allah, the most loving & caring, the always loving and caring,


Taqwa is a high standard, something people spend lifetime’s trying to attain. And if one is able to attain it, they must spend their life protecting and nurturing that taqwa. It is defined as follows:

‘Umar ibn Al-Khattab once asked Ubay ibn Ka’ab: “How would you describe Taqwa?” In reply Ubay asked, “Have you ever had to traverse a thorny path?” ‘Umar replied in the affirmative and Ubay then continued, “How do you do so?” ‘Umar said that he would carefully walk through after first having collected all loose and flowing clothing in his hands so nothing gets caught in the thorn. Ubay said: “This is the definition of Taqwa.”

It is plain that taqwa is a cautiousness with regard to obeyig Allah most high, coming from piety and a fear of Him. It is being cautious and wary of all things one encounters through any of his senses; to tread carefully through life so that no boundaries set by Allah most high are ever transgressed. A tall order indeed.

And we all chase that standard  — but how can we do so when we fail at something half as difficult as it?

Taqwa is being cautious to prevent falling into any traps set by Shaytaan — but how can we aim to do that when we so often fall into the same errors repeatedly?

How can we attempt or even think of aiming for that when we repeat our sins and mistakes? Taqwa is prevention — but are we capable of prevention when we cannot cure what is already in plain sight?

We must reflect. When we make a mistake for the first time we must seek forgiveness. But it is a characteristic of someone who seeks taqwa to be determined to never repeat that mistake ever again, to wipe it out of the list of possible things to happen next time.

For example, if one ate immensely for dinner, much more than usual — and then the following morning failed to get up for Fajr, which he usually is able to alhamduliLlah; then is it not plain that the problem was the unusually large dinner?

That person would be right to be cautious with regard to his dinner from now on, so that his Fajr is not at risk. Taqwa would have been to not eat that large dinner in the first place, out of fear of missing Fajr — but once a mistake is made we must hustle to find the underlying cause of the sin and address it just like we would address an injury.

A one-time mistake is one thing, but blindly repeating mistakes and never learning from them is  blameworthy. Taqwa is the highest standard, but it is foolish to think we can prevent mistakes from happening if we cannot even learn from the ones that we do commit. Let’s strive to prevent mistakes we have already made from happening again, before trying to prevent what we have never faced.


As salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi, wa barakaatuh

May peace of every aspect be upon you, along with the mercy of God and also His blessing.

On the State of This Blog, and New Sights

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Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmaani ‘r-Raheem,

With the name of Allah, the most loving & caring, the always loving and caring,


There has been a long downtime on this and other blogs of mine — my fault, having taken on too much with 3 separate blogs.

I will inshaAllahu ta’ala write more regularly from now on, and merge it all into one website with many categories instead. A website like The Ideal Muslim Man is a dream aim at this stage, and I ask Allah most high to facilitate the path to that and also bless that site.

How we spend time is a key thing, so inshaAllah the next few posts I will share some of my daily workflow and ideas that help me organize myself. I will also transfer over Hadith from Heartfelt Hadith, inshaAllahu ta’ala.


As salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi, wa barakaatuh

May peace of every aspect be upon you, along with the mercy of God and also His blessing.

There is No Ally Except Allah

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Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmaani ‘r-Raheem,

With the name of Allah, the most loving & caring, the always loving and caring,

Truly, there is no ally other than Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.

Every other human being – parent, friend, teacher, spouse – is not you ally. Yes, they may help you in all sort of things in countless ways. But on the one day that matters the most, they will disappear. On that Day, they will turn their backs on you, and their only concern will be themselves. And so will yours.

Our entire life in this world is simply preparation for that Day. Thus how can someone who will turn your back on you on the most important day of your existence ever be your ally?

People may give you assistance, money, knowledge, companionship — but just like your life in this world, they are a test. We must reflect on our own situation to find how others are a trial upon us; your mother took care of you for years and loves you, but how you treat her when you get in an argument, or how you take care of her when she is senile and in need are the real test.

Worldly sources may give aid, but along with it they carry countless tests straight from our Creator; and benefiting from them while failing the trials they bring does us immeasurably more harm than good. We must always be on guard for truly everything and everyone in this life is a test; if something bad, then the test is how far we try to stay away from it, and if something good, the test is how much we try to benefit from it.

But, there is only one being who we can trust unconditionally. One who loves us more than anyone, whether we do anything for Him or not. One who is All-Powerful and only has our best interests in mind.

Whether we have nothing, or the whole world in our hands is irrelevant; it means nothing to Him — He weighs only our sincerity, and He does so most Justly. In Him we find relief when we feel there can exist no relief. Upon Him only, we can trust absolutely. With Him, we can find solace. With Him, is ultimate success.

 

As salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi, wa barakaatuh

May peace of every aspect be upon you, along with the mercy of God and also His blessing.